Do Not Allow Someone Else’s Opinion To Dim Your Light!

Initially blogging was an activity chosen to reignite the light that was lost when I retired. It gave this extroverted introvert purpose to finally find her voice and not be restricted to the voice that someone gave me. Outside of gaining a space for my voice to be heard, I wanted to create a platform for other women to live life out loud, while knowing they were not alone in their individual journeys. For as long as I can remember, I’ve had so much to say and for whatever reason, I was unable to say it. Creating a safe space where Queens can be unapologetically themselves without judgment was important to me. So accepting that I allowed someone's opinion to discourage me was disheartning.

Anyone that knows me, knows that when I do something I want to do it well. It's what drives me. It makes my light shine and that was also applied to blogging. I began to do research on how to make “FortyplusFab” better. I began researching blog setups and how often should I post, etc. I dropped a couple of blogs, set up a mobile app, built a twitter handle and linked it all to Instagram; but then I realized that something was missing. It just didn't feel right. I wanted to make ‘FortyplusFab’ the spot. I wanted to bring you products, features, fashion, women and dog posts…you name it….y’all were going to get it. BUT…..during my research, I allowed someone else’s opinion make me believe that their ideal system of blogging was “THE WAY” for me. And I immediately hit the brakes and was discouraged. It has never been my style to allow anyone’s opinion to stop my progress but for some reason in this situation I had failed and my light didn’t only dim, it went out in mid stride. I was stuck.

Today I thank God for the Queens that I have surrounded myself with that will pick up my crown when I'm unable do it for myself. One of them reminded me not to allow others to confine me to a box that was never made for me. Another person's insecurities (their box) will always swallow you up, stunt your growth along with dimming your light. So be careful who you share your hopes and dreams with because all that is yours should be preciously valued ensuring that your dreams have the opportunity to manifest and your light continues to shine.

Until next time Queens,

A.L.R